I recently celebrated a pretty exciting milestone and naturally it got me thinking. It got me thinking about my journey thus far, the people I have met, the obstacles I have overcome and the many, many things I have learnt along the way.
Given how it easy it is to fall into that habit of sharing bad news, I thought I would share with you the thoughts I had about the last few years and some of the valuable things I have learnt:
Your family and friends will save you
When the chips are down, there is NO reason for anyone to pick himself or herself up alone. Lean on the people who love and care about you.
Never miss an opportunity to educate yourself
Knowledge is power. Listen and learn. Read about the things that affect your health and wellbeing. Equip yourself with information. Listen to other people when they share with you.
Never miss an opportunity to educate others
Always share your story. You never know who you might save.
Ask for help
Human beings are pack animals. We are designed to live in a group and coexist. We are not designed to do everything on our own.
Figure out what you love and do that
Take the time to – on your own and only when you’re ready – identify the things that make your soul sing. Try everything once. If you don’t love it, don’t do it again. If you love it, make the time to do it often.
“This too shall pass” it is the truest statement ever
The good and the bad will come and go. Saying this to myself OFTEN has helped me to appreciate the good times and survive the bad times.
Lean into the feelings
As someone who used to numb everything, I am so grateful to now feel everything. It hurts, and it’s messy, and I feel like I want to die sometimes. But I am human and I am learning and I am growing and that makes me love the feeling. Every feeling.
Establish a relationship with you
While it is true that you are your own worst enemy, you can also be your own best friend. Get good with spending time on your own and practice caring for yourself the same way you would a close friend.
None of this happens overnight. These evolutions didn’t happen quickly or immediately or without hiccups.
It is easy for me to wax nostalgic, and maybe a little arrogantly, about the great way I get to live these days. But in truth, each change (and there have been hundreds!) happened very slowly and one at a time. It has been a long and hard road, and the road ahead of me will be the same. I still make mistakes, and I will make loads more. In another 8 years I will have a new list of 8 lessons, maybe contradictory ones, because the truth is the more I learn the less I know.
Written by Jemima-Faye