With a world intent on focusing on perfection as the ultimate path to happiness, body shaming has become a major issue. Open any magazine or switch on the TV and you will be bombarded by images of bodies that are pretty much impossible to achieve… YET we constantly judge ourselves according to those images and expectations. We deny ourselves happiness and self love because we somehow feel cheated out of being blessed with FAKE perfection.
I remember my gran had the Desiderata prayer on her wall:
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.Max Ehrmann, “Desiderata“.
So in this tough competitive world we live in; where perfection is synonymous with happiness, love and acceptance, I urge you to ‘be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here’ exactly as you are. Right now.
The time to start loving and accepting yourself as you are is now.
May you truly appreciate the beauty and the value of who you are.
You are enough. I am enough.